If you are the bride or groom's close friends or relatives, you should recognize their marriage with a personal message and a wonderful gift. If you aren't very close to the couple, you can probably get away with just a polite message in the mail with best wishes—no present necessary. But if you have any influence over the couple at all, don't forget the gift! It could be something simple, like a book of art photographs, which would make an excellent record of the marriage date.
In addition to the wedding gift, it is appropriate to send flowers or a card to the new wife or husband. This shows your respect for them as well as their marriage.
It is not customary but not prohibited either for the father of the bride to offer a gift to her husband-to-be. This is usually done in the form of money, though anything else that the man wants (like a tie) will do. The mother of the bride may give her son-in-law a gift too. She might give him some cash now and then save up other gifts for later.
The groom should give a gift to the father of the bride. This could be something small like coffee or tea for the gentleman who has been so kind as to marry his daughter. But it can also be more expensive if the father likes.
The best man gives a gift to the groom's brother.
According to her, if a couple is married at the courthouse without any guests present, you are not required to offer a gift. If you get an announcement after the ceremony and are close to the couple, or if you are invited to a post-ceremony party, a wedding gift is totally suitable. You should also send a gift to couples who have a small wedding at a private location with only their family there. These couples don't usually receive any gifts from other people so it's nice for you to remember them.
The amount of the gift is up to you but it should be enough to say "thank you" but not more than that. For example, if the charge for weddings is $10,000 and you give someone a check for $20,000 then they will think that you are trying to pay for your own wedding too! The limit here is $10,000. You could give them a gift certificate to a local store for about $11,000 for example.
If the bride's family is not well off, though, a court marriage does not entitle the couple to a gift. In this case, it is appropriate to send something like a basket of fruit or a bottle of wine. These items would make great surprises for the newlyweds too - on their first night together or when they move into their new home.
As a result, getting a wedding present for the bride and groom's parents and in-laws on the big day is a nice gesture and customary etiquette. Parents' Personalized Wedding Gifts
Your present as best man should be for the bride and groom. It should always be offered at the wedding reception and addressed to the bride. If you want to show your affection for the couple, then a gift certificate to a local restaurant or store is a perfect choice.
The best man does not have to give a gift but it is an honor if he does. If the best man cannot afford a gift, then telling the bride and groom that you are giving them a gift (with their permission) makes them a gift too. For example, you could say something like this: "I would like to give the bride and groom a gift on my behalf. They can keep it if they want." This shows that you respect them enough to allow others to give them gifts instead of you.
You can also write a letter to the couple. It can be a short note expressing your love and gratitude, or a longer one discussing issues such as marriage, relationships, and life goals. Either way, the best man's gift should express your feelings for the couple.
At the end of the day, your gift should reflect how you feel about the couple and what they mean to you. If you can't afford a gift, then tell them this and offer to give a gift later.